3 Best Prostate Massagers
The prostate massager: a fan favorite for some men, a guilty pleasure for others. Society still attaches a stigma to prostate massagers, but society also tries to tell us that we can’t wear white after Labor Day and that you shouldn’t eat bacon for dessert — which are objectively silly rules.
Whether you’ve just had your first eye opening experience with a prostate massager, you’re looking for an upgrade or you and a partner have finally nervously come to an agreement to “give it a try,” there are probably a lot of questions going through your head. We can’t say we blame you.
There’s not a lot of medical research out there about prostate massagers — even the idea of prostate massages is mostly explored in clinical contexts, in regards to prostate health. That doesn’t leave the prostate-massaging community with much in the way of facts to work with.
The good news there is that you might not need “facts.” Finding the right prostate massager for your needs is just about good ol’ “right-for-you” subjectivity.
You’re going to find the right prostate massager for your needs. You just need to understand what’s important about a prostate massager, what makes them different and how to tell where you’ll fall on the spectrum. Let’s start with the basics.
Why Massage Your Prostate?
Aside from the alleged health benefits of prostate massage for helping with sexual dysfunction and some urinary issues, it’s predominantly used for pleasure.
Men can orgasm from their prostates — somewhat the same way women can have multiple sources of orgasmic stimulation.
Prostate orgasms are different from penile orgasms in one way: the point of origin. A prostate orgasm is the result of stimulation of the prostate rather than the penis. But prostate orgasms involve a different group of muscles too.
When you have a prostate orgasm, scientists believe you’re actually engaging about a dozen muscles — instead of the four to eight muscles thought to be involved in the contractions from a penile orgasm.
What Makes a Good Prostate Massager?
You might be stimulating just the prostate or in combination with the penis, perineum (the area between the penis and scrotum), and other erogenous zones. In any case, the best tool for the job is one that’s comfortable, easy, and pleasurable to use.
Generally, a prostate stimulator will look slightly different from a butt plug (another type of sex toy) because it’ll typically be longer and may not have the flared base. You might separately enjoy a butt plug sexual experience, but those aren’t for prostate stimulation.
The rules aren’t terribly strict, either. Anything can be a prostate massager as long as it’s non-toxic, not sharp or jagged, and won’t get stuck if pushed too far in. You’ll also want to invest in some water-based lubricant — but that’s another story.
A few types of massagers are great for beginners and the experienced alike, all of which are designed to stimulate the prostate (aka the P-spot).
The 3 Best Prostate Massager Types
Prostate massagers stimulate prostate glands the way women’s sex toys stimulate G-spots. They can be electronic and motorized with several vibration modes, or they might achieve internal stimulation by being inserted.
Brands that make P-spot devices include Lelo Hugo, Lovehoney, Helix, Aneros, and PlusOne. But while you may opt for a bestseller, you can’t go wrong with any of the following options.
1. Vibrating Prostate Massagers
A prostate vibrator offers plenty of sensations for prostate pleasure. Devices with multiple vibration patterns, vibration speeds, and a powerful motor can help you hit that sweet spot of anal pleasure that leads to more intense orgasms.
You’ll have to spend some time experimenting to find the right vibration settings for your needs. But any safe, rechargeable clitoral vibrator or anal vibrator designed to create buzzy sensations can work.
A partner can also use an external vibrator in tandem with anal beads, an anal plug, or a vibrating butt plug to assist you.
2. Non-Vibrating Plugs, Beads, and Dildos
Though a dual-motor toy sounds powerful, you don’t necessarily need to bring electricity into the experience to achieve intense stimulation.
The male prostate can be stimulated by any safe silicone or stainless steel sex toy designed for anal play. Yes, curved and targeted toys will deliver direct stimulation, but indirect stimulation might actually be more comfortable and manageable for beginners.
Sexual pleasure can be had the old-fashioned way, with silicone toys of myriad shapes. You’ll want to look for a curved or angled shaft and a bulbous head, which can help you target your prostate better. The curved shape is ideal for isolating the prostate gland — for all experience levels.
3. A Finger or Other Body Part
You can achieve the same variable speeds and intensity levels while approximating the contoured head and bulbed shaft of a toy with a finger from your (or your partner’s) hand.
Your finger even has some features a toy may not — it’s fairly easy to clean with antibacterial soap, it’s good for intermediate and experienced users alike, and it gives you advanced control during anal penetration, so you can find that walnut-sized gland with relative ease and comfort.
Gently inserting any toy or tool into the rectum for masturbation or sex does require clean-up afterward.
Using a Prostate Massage Device Safely
Your prostate is that fleshy bulb several inches inside the rectal canal — it’s on the other side of the rectal wall from your spine, near your bladder. It may take time to locate it, but you’ll know when you do — trust us.
As for safety, prostate massage hasn’t really been studied all that much by scientists, and when it has, it’s mostly been for its medical efficacy. These days, it’s only somewhat accepted as a mechanism for treating chronic prostatitis (swollen or inflamed prostate).
More importantly, toys and fingers can cause injury if not used safely. Finding a good angle of stimulation and the right girth of the toy may take a few tries, so be careful, be gentle, and be extremely patient with your (or your partner’s) body.
Prostate Massagers: The Big Picture
Prostate massagers are great for a healthy sex life. If you’re looking to experiment because you want to be adventurous, consider this your nod that it’s a safe and healthy curiosity to explore.
Here’s what to keep in mind about the best prostate massagers:
The best way to maximize your enjoyment is to use one correctly and take care of all your equipment. That may mean telling a partner to go slow, using more lube, or telling a healthcare provider when things aren’t working right.
Prostate massage might be a way around erectile issues like erectile dysfunction (ED), but it’s no solution.
If you’re trying something new because other things aren’t working the way they’re supposed to, it might be better to talk to a healthcare professional.
Hims carries a remote-controlled prostate massager, along with non-slip cock rings, a vibrating penis ring, and a classic bullet vibrator.
Whatever you’re up to, enjoy — and be safe!
This article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. The information contained herein is not a substitute for and should never be relied upon for professional medical advice. Always talk to your doctor about the risks and benefits of any treatment or medication.